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Like a Child

We fall for easy and shiny trinkets and simple, comfortable thoughts. Like a child, we rush forward towards toys and lights. We do not dismiss them for the sugary confection that they are because we do not understand or value a good life. Often, we simply do not understand what those things are. And so we accept what the hive tells us, what the tribe demands.

When we grow, if we are lucky, we walk away from the tribe and find those that have done the same. They are few, but they have all removed the limits of the tribe, self-imposed or otherwise. We learn that man is not the measure of all things. But we come to learn that his ideas can be.

And if we grow to be wise we come to realize that evolution is a blind watchmaker and not an imposing dictator of our lives. We think ourselves towards freedom and with time, we can see past the trinkets and the easy offerings. We learn to walk away from ourselves, and remember who we have become.

Civility

No matter how much we may try we will run across people that we do not like. There are probably many reasons for this, but no matter how much you might believe that it is your duty to be liked or like, it is not. Lying about it will only last so long. All facades fail eventually.

It is better to embrace the truth. Face the reason(s) head on. Be honest with yourself, and if necessary with the person that you do not care for. Nothing new may come of it. Nothing may change, there is a chance of that, but truth can provide some comfort.

What is important is civility. Civility does not require us to like everyone or even most people. It does require us to be courteous, it may require us to minimize the time spent with these people. But no matter: be courteous, be polite, but be honest.

Civilization is not based upon amiability but it is based upon common courtesy.